My huge silence must have only meant one thing. That i was deep in the driving school thing 🙂
If you have been following my posts, you can tell that i have been deeply focusing all my time and effort on getting the German driver’s license. This I must say was one of the hardest and most frustrating, yet quite satisfying thing that one needs in order to get by through pretty much everything here in Germany.
As I mentioned, i started off the theory and coupled it with the practicals. Something in my honest opinion i would advise against and i will tell you why.
I was doing my theory and practicals at the same time and about halfway through the practicals and at the end of my theory, i opted to pause the driving so i could give 100% on training on the questions (this i elaborated in the prevous theory article) i needed to go through all the questions uninterupted in order to prepare for this.(Is there any other way to passing the theory test anyways?)
So it consumed alot of my time, and i thought since i have to pass the theory anyways in order to do the practicals, i must as well wait until i am done with one bit.
Problem is, this whole break kinda brought me back to sqaure 1, and i kinda had to recoup all those driving classes.
Before i could regain the confidence i had learnt, i was already a couple of euros away. So, unless you are thee master(mistress) of multitasking,i would advise you to finish one thing before getting onto the next, but then again , to each, his(her)own.
That being said, i did enough driving classes, and i mean aloooot. At some point i was ready but about 2 or 3 classes away to the exam but i completely panicked and was making really silly mistakes(by silly i mean like not getting the schleifpunkt or always turning the the wrong gear) I freaked out and asked for some more classes.
After gathering enough confidence, i booked a test, which i unfortunately failed. Ouch! Nothing as bitter and hurtful as this!
The mistakes i did was not checking the Rechts vor links in an innerorts among other very unnecessary mistakes.This, if you ask anyone is a grave mistake so the fail was legit :-D. The other mistake was driving at 66 in a 50 zone, joinining the highway at a strange acceleration – there was a truck pretty close at the front. I think i sent the examiner into a mini heart-attack!
This experience however taught me how to watch out for these situations. I checked on Youtube and driving school forums for mistakes that people make on their exams, so i can also avoid these mistakes.
I also asked my husband to call my driving teacher and talk to him in german/man to man or whatever that is and ask him exactly where i always got it all wrong and he explained it in detail. This helped me practise more on these weak areas.
We then went to the übungsplatz and practised on these. There’s one in Moers, not so big like those in bigger towns but it is perfect for helping one gain the confidence. In Mettmann there is a bigger one with enough parking areas to practise with. For instance they have created some crop cars where one learns the parallel parking. I also liked it cos it was quite big with traffic lights and all. This was great as it really helped in enhancing my confidence.and it helped enhance the confidence. The only downside is that one just needs to go early especially on weekends as it tends to get so full and you dont get to practise enough cos of the traffic build up by learners.
If you are on this side of NRW, there is also one in Essen, you can check it out. It is pretty big too.
My Examiner was very young but i found him to be more strict! I remember he asked me, while driving at a 30 zone how fast i needed to drive. I was driving at 23 and confidently shouted 30! and he said, correct, now this is your last warning, if you drive any slower, this would be the end of this exam. Shit, I then was very alert. I think i was either over confident, or i dont know what what was really going on through my head. I managed to somehow drive perfectly through the rest of the exam but it was not yet over.
We got back to the parking area and he asked me to turn off the car, and set it. I did but the car was keyless and for some freaking reason it would not go off. Thank God my teacher told him its a new car and not what we have been pracising with and thank God the examiner was very understanding and accepted the explanation. He then asked me to get out of the car as he needed to talk to my teacher. I was sweating blood cos i could not fanthom another redo. I did not have the psyche or mental capability to go through all the sleepless night or getting haunted in the night by exam threats(no really, this shit gives you hallucinations) 😀
After all is said and done, i made it and he gave me my license, and boy, I’m i not glad that this chapter is now closed for me!
I hope those going through the same will ace it as well 🙂
Jst don’t give up. I can not say this enough!
Here is a checklist of what they check during the exam. Go through the list and try and understand each one of them. I am sure once you do there is no doubt that you will pass the exam. Nothing is impossible! 🙂
Please feel free to send me any of your questions, tips, motivational messages for those going through the same and we can answer or help out where possible :-3
Also, let me know if this is you taking a screenshot in your driving classes 😛
Hello everyone, i hope this post finds you well?I am doing great, just trying to adjust to the now very cold winter days. Is it only me or does it already seem colder than all previous winters?Anyways, i am here today cos of the theory driving test and not the winter 😛
My experience was great i must say. Was following online conversations about people’s experiences. Some very negative so i am very happy to have found a really nice school near my place with very friendly staff too.
Upon enrollment i was given the text book and access to the learning App – Fahren Lernen Max. The app is downloadeable from play store and i got it on my fone and tablet where i would practise with while on the move. Besides that there is the Eyetest and the first aid course, the Amt fees of about 50€ and the Tüv fees for the exams. The theory and enrollment fees were about 500€ (The Amt and Tüv fees were one time fees for both the theory and practical exams)
The classes were a total of 14 mandatory classes. They were all in German. I was hoping to get an english Theory class as i intended to do the Theory exam in English, but there was none. I however went with the flow and actually understood most of what was being taught. I like these kind of set ups too as they provide opportunities to vertiefen my Deutsch, so it was alright. Not complaining. However, I was defo not doing the exam auf Deutsch.:-)
My classes were twice a week, and they fortunately went by so fast. We studied a chapter in every session, so one had to commit and attend all of them. Skipping a session, say, chapter 5, would mean that you wait until all 14 are over in that order, and wait for the sessions to start over with the new batch of students, and time for the single chapter you missed.Quite the time waster,hence the necessity to soldier on without any breaks 😛 .
Once i was done with the theory i then concentrated with the app questions. The App has a MILLION questions, divided into all the topics like road signs, the legal necessities etc.
Then there are test simulations which are a bunch (about 300) simulations with 30 questions tests each, appearing exactly as they would in the exam. Additionally to that, there were also about 80 or so mocks,exactly like the simulations.
The exam kinda reminded me of the old KCPE/KCSE days, when you would get those booklets with mock tests. And one would repeat them over and over until they were on your fingertips, hahhaha.
The exam is divided into two parts. The first part, Basic knowledge consists of 20 questions and the second part category B with only 10 questions. The questions have multiple answers and each question carries points ranging from 2-5. In order to pass, one had to get only 10 points wrong. Also, the wrong answers must not be from a single question from basic knowledge carrying 5 Points and the second from category B carrying 5 points. They should be spread. I did not understand this criteria, but well… that’s how it is. If i find a pic of what i mean, i will later upload it. I now cant seem to trace it now.
Anyways, after going through all the questions, you kinda cram them and it reaches a point where you dont even have to read the entire question, just a glimpse at the answers and you already know what is required. The good thing is, if you are done with the initial set of questions given, you can ask your school to load your app with more questions, to practise with until you are confident enough to sit for the exam. The App helps to show your readiness for the exam, following the consistency of passes 🙂 I must say the exam is doable with a pass at a single try!
The questions however sometimes are confusing and all answers, like all multiple answers questions, may seem right. This can be very annoying and may cost you. All on all, it’s never the end of the world. You can always repeat the exam, good thing you dont need an appointment to go sit for the exam, so if you like, you can redo it right there and then, ofcourse after payment. It’s just annoying cos it costs you time and money, but what to do.
I really hope i will come back soon and write about the Practicals :)I intend to do them next year though. Im not a winterhead 🙂
Update: Yes i am back and happy to say that i aced the practicals too : Ofcourse i wrote about it here. Check it out 🙂
If you have done the driving exam, both theory and practicals or either, please share your tips and experiences. Would love to hear them! The same to those already attending the classes or in preparation stage.
Until then, i wish you all a merry xmas, I hope you have already decorated your houses. If not, what are you waiting for!:-P
Getting straight to it, we spent this summer in Rome and here is my experience about Rome and ofcourse the places I would suggest to you if you are planning your next trip there… so here goes!
PS. Long Read Alert!
But before we jump into it, It goes without saying that there are endless possibilities when it comes to trotting around Europe from these ends. All one needs s a destination…hahah, i kid kid, let’s cut that crap. All one needs is some good early planning and an Urlaub kittybank. This is because we dont need to hustle for a visa (that visa hustle…that visa hustle!(i need not say more. This blog started off cos of visas, so I will end it htere :-P) Anyway, once that visa hustle is out of the way, one just needs to get a destination and ours was Roma!
We planned the trip with Expedia a couple of months ago. The deal was inclusive of a flight and a hotel. (Eurowings + B&B) For the price the flight and accomodation was absolutely great, zero complaints about that. It is prudent that i mention i travelled with hubs. We left the lil’ one at home. In my honest opinion, Rome is not for tods. Maybe in the Winter it is bearable but that summer heat, hilly and crowded roads, an absolute NO for KIDS!Ofcourse we have super parents out there, who hack that but no! Not at close to 40 fucking degrees. I kid you not!
We got there at about 17:00h. Our hotel guys were kind enough to send us a cab(ofcoure we paid 50€ for that 😀 and cos checkin after 18.00h accrues penalty which was almost equivalent to the cab fare – Schlau eeh?:-P, We wouldn’t have made it had we arranged our own transport – tram/bus or whatever) We wanted to get the Roma pass before we leave the airport * (will later get to it) all that plus gettting our luggage, etc would have cost us more time. Then couple that with eventual delays, bus and train connections…neee, that cab option was the best deal. We were also anyways kinda tired. We live in Duisburg like you all know fron previous posts, and our departure was from Köln airport…so yeahhhh
Reader discretion, before you proceed, please take note that this is an absolute spoiler alert with exact pics ( and lots of them for that matter) about Rome. Press continue if you consent to this :-P!
We got to the hotel, dropped our bags and straight away, went out looking for an italian pizza joint 😀 Typisch!!! Zum Glück, the first joint was absolutely BOMBE!!, The pizza was fucking amazeballs and we knew we had definitely gotten ourselves in the right hands..thanks POPE Francesco!
This was Diavolo at Goose. The pizza and food generally at Goose was very delish….yummmmm. Also it is near St. Pertersdom and the pricing is fair
After dinner we went back to the hotel, rested and set out our plan for the next day.
So, to the Roma Pass I mentioned earlier, with it we could travel with the public service (bus and train) for 72 hrs around Rome and it allowed us entrances to 2 Museums and a reduced entrance price to some of the joints to see. Think it makes a lot of sense to get it considering all the walking one has to do and with the heat, that bus ride comes as a saviour!
Also, for ideas of places to visit, the Marco Polo book came in handy. Gave us lots of reasonable tips of places to visit and we strived to see as much as possible. When planning your Rome trip get the book, or i can actually lend you mine if you like.
Come Wednesday, we set it off for St Petersdom. We started the day early and were already at the gates at around 10:00. The queues for the security was not as long at the time, so I guess it is prudent to get there early enough. Also, the Pope visits every Wednestday, so if you also want to attend Mass, with the POPE himuselifu, rise early!Seeing him i must say was the highlight of our visit. We were standing on the security queue and once we got in, there were two gates. We randomly followed the one to the left and to our surprise, it led us to the church, and right infront of us, guess who was seated there…oops sorry, I already mentioned ’twas our highlight, drat! no surprise there. Anyway, it was quite a big deal for us.
St Petersdom at night is also really nice to look at. There are no checks or queues to get in. Access is quite easy. Make it a point to check it out with the lighting at night 🙂
2. ENGELSBURG – Castel Sant’Angelo
Engelsburg is a huge castle, which also gives an amazing view of the River Tiber crossing through the city.
With the Roma Pass we did not have to pay the entrance fee. We did not have to queue either, we could just key the Roma pass and go in straight away. That was one of the benefits of the cards. The castle is extremely big and very beautiful. You could see from the small windows or holes on the walls and the high walls that it was a military fortress. More info : https://www.rome-museum.com/castel-sant-angelo.php
There was also a BVLGARI museum, with the perfume renting the air. Pretty interesting
3. PIAZZA NAVONA
At this point we were starting to get hungry after a long morning walk. And so we walked towards the centre of the town in quest of a food joint. But before that, Piazza Novanna which we wanted to check out happened to be in the vicinity and so we went there.
The figures are quite interesting, maybe even strange/creepy, the story behind quite interesting though! I will let you check it out for yourself!
we walked through the narrow alleys until we found our joint 🙂
We had lunch at Bassai. Nice restaurant, great food. We went for Pasta this time. The portion wasnt soooo much for me, guess that’s why the italians arent fat 😀 The pricing and staff were great, Although i got charged 10€ extra, had to ask for it back though. Noticed this in a couple of places, they would slightly exaggerate the price from what was on the menu, maybe it was an honest mistake cos it happened in several places, i ronno. With that heat, and busy times everything can happen!
4. THE PANTHEON : THE TEMPLE OF ALL GODS
This was/is an interesting cathedral. Pretty old and looks exactly so but once you go inside, you marvel at the construction and art that was unimaginably used at that time. It is bigger from the inside than it looks from the outside.It aslo has a hole at the top where, when it rains, it rains through as well, but you know the romans, the drainage was defo put into consideration. . Amazing huh? See pics below
And that marked the end of our escapades and venture for the day. We went back to the hotel to rest abit and later went out to look for a disco…which we did not find. The clubscene in the summer is non-existent, atleast on that end where we were staying. We however found a nice place to hang out in the evening called Woods. They did not serve food but had a platter of bitings which included the italian amazing salami..i could never have enough of that. The ambience was nice and chill. It was also at the top of the mountain with a great view of the area. The restaurant played nice background music and i must say, it was a perfect hang out joint. The pricing is also great!
So next day we set out for colloseum. Twas a nice day, started out kinda cool which was a good sign. With the Roma pass we used the bus to the city centre. We alighted practically right there and did not have to walk so far to get there. But first, check this building out, mega cool
5. Altare della Patria
The monument was built in honor of the first king of italy, and the building currently hosts national celebrations like the liberation day, republic day and armed forces day…To read more you can check out: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Altare_della_Patria
6. FORUM ROMANUM
Then walking towards the colloseum you could see the ancient ruins that were excavated. Acording to the net this used to be the political, legal and religious center of the Roman Empire…(feels like a history class all over eh?) must say this place is rich in Archeological history. Anyways for more info, check this link out, twas quite informative. info : https://romesite.com/roman-forum.html
7. THE ROMAN COLLOSSEUM
We finally made it to the colloseum but i guess we were not early enough as the queues were extremely long. Even with the Roma passes we first had to reserve an entry time, where we could be told when our turn to enter the arena is. The queue for getting the reservation was also looooong. We unfortunately opted to pass. It was exremely hot and kinda humid and we just had no energy left to wait and get in. Let us say that is what we have saved for our next Roma visit, if ever we go back there 🙂
Otherwise, it looked pretty amazing too from the outside
We then went to the Jewish Ghetto. We got a very well informed guide who told us lots about the suffering of the jews at the time. The Jews were limited to this area where their rights were extremely denied. She also explained that there is currently a huge jewish community there but unfortunately their numbers may be dwindling as most have, for economic and educational reasons immigrated either to Israel or to the US etc.
We then went to have lunch and we settled for pizza at the Jewish ghetto, and i must say, that was where i had the bestest pizza during my stay there. Ofcourse, it was a diavolo (you all know now that thats my fave pizza, in Germany too btw) and it was exactly what i had imagined and dreamed of how pizza should be. Just the thought of it is making me already drool. It was extremely delish! If there was a way of ordering from there, i would, without giving it a second thought!
We were then done for the day. And walked towards the bus station. Rome is well designed in the sense that there are very many drinkable and cool water points spread around the city. After long walks one takes a stop and refills their bottles with cool,ice cold and refreshing water from the springs
9. Cant remember the name of this museum
But it was to the right of Altare della Patria. I particularly liked it cos of the force the lady at the centre potrayed to give. Will definitely look it up and update this. If any of you know the name or can identify it please feel free to share together with alil info and links 🙂
That summed up the activities for this day.
We later went to another joint to have some wine, and this time we got to Risky Point.
Also a nice hang out joint. What games do you play while on the road? You still play start stop? 😀
10. THE TREVI FOUNTAIN
This was our last stop. It was just beautiful. No words can describe this any better.
We never made it to the Spanish Steps, if you are planning your trip, it may be worth a place to visit. At our time though, it had alot of shit going on. People were not allowed to sit and hang out there like before. Maybe in future it may change. A pal sent us this warning, being caught sitting there could’ve cost us and other tourists upto 400 Euros, wheew!
Hope you guys enjoyed the pics, long read and got to learn alittle about Rome or got your curiousity about Rome aroused! I definitely learnt alot in as much us i am not such a huge history freak. It was worth our vacation!
long time. I know i know…Well multi-tasking with life is not as easy as they put it out there. But ofcourse, i will never miss an opportunity to update the blog, catch up with the comments etc.
BTW i always approve ALL comments within a span of 24hrs…48hrs max at the top. That end of multi-tasking hasn’t withered off 😛
Anyways, what are your hobbies. Winter is knocking on the doors. What things that make you happy will help keep the cold away? What do you do indoors?
Been working out on and off all my life, and I’m on the on bit again, trying to bring that high back. Been trying to run as well unfortunately very seldom when it was warmer…It’s a shame that the mojo is now kicking in full throttle when it’s getting colder.
Went out for a run yesterday after a long while, did a mere slow 4km, but felt good. I wonder why i was all lazy in the summer when the perfect opportunity (read weather) presented itself! I might try again next weekend if it wont be as cold but i know the time has past. I’m also not a gym person and i unfortunately don’t own a tread mill. That would have been something eeh?
I’m into indoors training. That works for me. Do any of you guys try that? If so what kind?Wait, do you excercise at all, Or what do you do to stay fit? Would like to know.
Please share your views and ideas on hobbies and/or on what to you do to pass the winter season.
While in Kenya or just at home(depending on whichever country one is) the dream of living abroad has always been the big deal. Imagining life sailing all smooth, no worries about nothing, no dust in the air=no eye problems, breathing fresh air, perfect healthcare,education, a system that actually works, where you see where the taxes you pay go to…life just being simple and easy. Maybe marrying a rich guy, giving birth to a football team and being a stay at home mom(dad)-taking care of the kids and the house, dressing up and looking nice even if it’s just for the house and having no worries whatsoever in the world. You know..all what people think adulting is. Until reality hits!
Not to sound pessimistic but how is it for people living abroad(majuu). I would really like an honest answer about this. How do people run their homes. Especially living without other family members(from your side) or just without a help(nanny). How do you share responsibilities at home. At least back home we are spoilt with either having siblings to send around or help with house chores or to help with your errands (i used to enjoy doing that for my older siblings for a lil pocket money here and there) But come adulting and then add living abroad to that, where these ‘luxuries’ are non-existent. How do you cope.
As you obviously know I have small boy(19 months old today-yay) who is super active! Hanging out with him is super fun but at the end of every day I retire to bed completely exhausted. Taking care of him and then taking care of other house chores, or chasing appointments(his or mine) then add up other chores, add up you also want to go shopping and checking out what’s cool and trying out stuff(before he gets fussy). Then maybe trying to go out for movies or stuff, that you used to do before the baby came? How do guys do all these now.
Then come chasing a career. Finding that job firstly may be a challenge-even without kids. Although very possible, finding it first may be tricky. Then come being a parent and wanting a career. The first questions that pop. Where will you leave the baby. If you have able parents-in-law, that is an advantage. But then again, you still have to run and pick the baby after work-depending on how far apart you live from each other. Now those who do not have relatives nearer or just anyone who can help with the kids. You are lucky to get a Tagesmutter or a kindergarten in your area(what a nightmare). Then working fulltime. Therein comes another challenge. In my area they mostly take kids till 3pm. Work goes on till 5.Before you leave work and get to the baby?Worse still if you depend on public transport which may either have delays or the next connection may just be a while before you get there on time? Pfff
Then come the other house chores and it brings me back to my earlier question. How do people share responsibilities at home? After a working day for both of you, who goes to the kitchen, does yesterday’s dishes if they are still there or cooks, does the house?Help the kid with homework, clean up the house, wash the baby or do laundry/ironing, clean the toilet, vacuum the house, dust the Vitrine and all the Oberfläche, take the bins out, water the flowers…i bet you get the drift now.Who does all that? How do you share responsibilities at home. Do we have cases of one partner having worked a lot at work and therefore needs to rest when s/he comes home-but then again both of you are from work, so no one is more beat than the other? How do guys do it? How do you split chores? Do you have a timetable? Or how do you get things done-cos they have to be done!
Back home you would get to the house and have the nanny with a sparkling house waiting with food for you. Maybe even argue with her/him for having the house not sparkle yet he/she has been with your baby all day and done all chores, and, and, and..that endless list of chores. How do people abroad manage all that?
Was a stay at home mom for a while and I was ever exhausted. Oftentimes i would be asked how/why i was ever tried yet I’m just at home? I truly came to appreciate the roles our nannies play and all other stay at home moms/dads. I would really love to meet a stay at home dad and hear if their experience is the same. Or the working mom.
Stay at home parents do ALOT! These are superparents.Having the house done and a thriving kid(s) all at the same time is hard work. Then add homeschooling for those who have chosen this path. It’s not easy.
I remember thinking that maybe I should have waited a bit with having my son and maybe chase career and all that development stuff that i really wanted to achieve before i finally settle for parenting.Now that I’m in it i know that i will still have to experience it .Regardless of whether it’s delayed or current. The same struggles are the same. The good thing of being a young parent(of course I’m still young even if i turn a year older next month) is you have the energy to do a lot of things with the kids that are also fun for you..or I’m i justifying it..hehehe think i am cos really, one has no choice? One must just find baby friendly places!
Parenting is definitely not easy. And no, not just for me. I have interacted with a couple of parents during the baby groups and miniclubs I attended and it hasn’t been any different for them either…ofcourse not for all. There are many who make it look like it is very easy..those I would really like to have a sit down with and get to hear their views.
So if you have first or second-hand experience on this, please do share. How do people do it? Stay at home moms, whether as an ausländer/ausländerinnen or a native or in Kenya,. Future parents too!Those lucky enough to have an aupair, or those who are aupairs, how is it in your homes?I’m really eager to know how y’all are doing it. Please share so we can all get tips cos we all just MUST thrive!
first of all, heartfelt apologies for having neglected this blog for a while.Loads and loads happening and so fast. But i believe now is the perfect time to get back to blogging.
How have y’all been?New comers, how are your first days going? What are you upto?
Wa kupotea mulipotea wapi and if so how did you get your way back?
Any recent and exciting developments?What are you upto?
Whats pissing you off?What challenges are you experiencing so far?
Summer’s coming.What plans do we have?Are we going to choma meat from Turkish kiosks all summer long? And drink cold sekt through out bumping to reggae mixes by dj kalonje 😀 or who do you guys listen to?? Or what are you currently reading or watching
Let’s build the convo and get to know each other. Who knows, we just might be neighbours!
So, as we had earlier danced around the idea of having a forum where we can discuss about our new lives in the towns we have relocated into. I tried to open a forum but wordpress needs me to upgrade to a premium site to allow forums. Since that’s impossible, guess this should suffice.
I would recommend for guys to share their experiences in their new towns, their first impressions, what they like or not so far. What’s so different from home? How do you see yourselves living here for the rest of your lives, etc etc. You can also tell us alittle(or alot) about your town, send pics also of interesting or strange things you come by as you go on with your daily lives. What German musicians do you like, if you are into music like myself(see my top fave german songs on the comment section), tv shows or programs, football, have you caught up with the football craze?If so which teams do you support? Or gaming? (Is it me or there’s an obsession with gaming on this end?) Christmas markets are soon opening. They officially open here in Duisburg on the 23rd of November.ooh i can’t wait for Glühwein mit einem schuss Amaretto. (Do you like your Glühwein mit oder ohne schuss?If so,which one?) Please attend and share your perfect shots:)
Let’s feel free to discuss anything and everything under the sun (dark winter clouds).
Also, we can use this site (forum) to share advises, tips, encouragements, ideas on what to do to get by, just to uplift each other to get better and to easily get by in the foreign land we’ve chosen to live in.
los geht’s, twende kazi, lets go 😀 😀
ps, don’t mind the pics, just put them up to spice up the post 😉
Also. talking of tips, found this Kenyan youtube vlogger who does videos in German, full of life and very interesting. She’s just starting out with a couple of videos already on, i believe she will be doing more, in German, as we go on. You can pick a thing or two from her 🙂 Check her page out!
OMG!! How time flies yo! Can’t believe it has been a year. A year of raising this beautiful soul, handsome fella who’s brought us nothing but pure joy…Joy so fulfilling that i never knew existed.
Mothering has been one hell of a journey. In all honesty, i really dint know exactly what i was getting into before getting pregnant. I thought it was a simple and easy ride, right? Wrong! Most of the guys i saw who just had kids seemed to have it all together, everything seemed easy and i thought, damn, if they did it who can’t. But i guess i was only seeing what my eyes wanted to see. The eyebugs and ashen skin cos of sleepless nights were all there but still they had the same rejuvenation to take care and mind their babies.
My hurdles started from the very beginning. A couple weeks in i got mastitis 😦 I remember i had to sit for the B1 exam i had been attending classes for during my entire gestation period. It was to take only some hours. I woke up pretty early to go to my friend’s to ‘revise’ before sitting for the paper. Initially it was all ok but then my boobs kept getting heavier and heavier, but at the time i didn’t really understand the ‘gravity’ of the situation…with all the pun. When i got back home in the evening i could not even touch my boobs, They were that painful, and still heavy. I tried to express some milk out on the sink but the pain was excruciating. When he(Noah) finally came home from the grandparents’, he was too beat he breastfed abit and passed out. I had a long night! Later in the night i got some crazy ass fever. I woke up to change his diaper. I first felt weak when i lay him on the changing table, but kinda ignored it for being sleepy. Soon as i was done and carrying him back to our room, my hands and feet were completely feeble. Thank God our flat wasnt so big and the rooms weren’t far apart cos i just could have dropped him on the floor. I threw him on the bed before i fell. Thank God i aimed well,hmmm The dad woke and wondered what was up. i Din’t even realize i was burning . My temps were way up there.We rushed to the hospital and i got admitted.Stayed in for a couple days. At this time i also had chapped nipples, so breastfeeding was hard considering i was exclusively bfing at the time and i coun’t avoid it to prevent further engorgement.Wueeeh! To say i was suffering would be an understatement. Thank God the nurses had to massage it out every time they came to check my temps-man!A nurse pal of mine had mentioned that she attended to someone who had engorged boobs that were oozing out worms and that her boobs had to be drilled to ease the engorgement. This gave me the frights man, that it could actually reach this level! Must say I learnt the tough way. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.
The following months were ok. The sleepless nights were a norm. Ofcourse i would never get used to them. I honestly can’t exactly remember the last time i slept through the night. I remember when i was preggars and was being asked to keep the fone away and just sleep cos when the baby comes i will never get to sleep. Well, now i understand exactly what they were saying. Once when i almost crashed and the granny took him for a sleepover and i celebrated on how i was finally going to sleep through the night uninterrupted. Well, thing is, he left early morning so again my boobs were full all day, i spent most of the day on the sink expressing out milk even though they still felt sore at night. For fear of a repeat attack, i ended up waking a couple of times just to try and clear it out…In essence, i didn’t really sleep through..again. Lols
There are days, when he is completely needy (rightfully so) especially when he has a growth spurt..new tooth here or something. Then he gets all uneasy and won’t want anyone else to carry him. So we end up stuck looking at each other, having not slept at night, completely beat. Those are crazy days. I’m actually glad that the dad can take him for a drive or just to go, for a couple of hours so i can just sit, alone..without him..just to breathe. Although i then end up missing him after a while and just sit and think about him…i can’t quite explain.
This year has been one quite interesting ride. A totally new experience that i got in quite green and don’t regret at all. Ofcourse there are days we sit with hubs and wonder if we should have waited abit, explore the world abit, just live abit, freely, but just the thought of doing life without our lil man is unfathomable. We just can’t live without him. We will get to do all these things in future, with him, when the time is right. For now we shall enjoy each and every little second we have with him, no matter how trying it can be.
Sometimes he does these small cute things that just melts our hearts making us laugh hysterically till we crawl on the ground. This one time he was holding out a fone and putting it around his ears and we were wondering what it was he was trying to do. He actually watches what we do and apes us. He was trying to make a call. Lols. We thought he was little to understand these. Or when we are watching a random show and guys are applauding on the other end and he starts laughing and clapping back, lols.Too too cute or when you sneeze and he tries to say bless you, hahahah. I could go on and on,but i must say Noah is such an adorable and cute guy. He has taught me alot.Most importantly to be patient. I’m not exactly there, but i have learned just to chill and take it easy.
I pray and hope that he will grow up to be a good person. Mindful of others and having respect for everyone regardless of where or whatever background they have, not to be mean and most importantly to love having a bath/showering like he does now 😛
We finally moved houses. We have been living on an apartment on the 5th floor. Initially it was all great, loving the ‘pent house’ view of the entire area, but then after a while when the real work started, climbing all the way up with stuff von Einkaufen, drinks, (I’m i the only one who can’t quench her thirst with sparkling water?) Then with my 10kg+ son on the other hand… Meeh, twas becoming a hurdle. I was really looking forward to the move. We were lucky to find a flat on ground floor, Über excited because that means it is easy to just wake and go wherever without actualy thinking about the stairs!
We started to slowly pack up boxes since August, and whenever either of us was going down, we would carry a box or two down. Lucky enough supermarkets give out carons for free so again that was dope. I must say that was one of the most brilliant ideas we ever had,(starting with the packing early) cos it was not exactly a breeze on D-day but we had few things to struggle down with. Thats a tip i could recommend for everyone. (Was gonna say a tip i would carry to the next move, but i hope we won’t have to move again, atleast not in the recent future. ) Moving is a bitch! It’s just exhausting..having to pack and unpack..then having all the clutter that you don’t want to throw away…stuff that in honest sense you don’t need but still holding on to…I have lots of those. I just hope i can one day find the will to discard them off.
On the flip side, getting to paint the colors you desire is a good thing. I have been living on pintinterest to get some ideas on the colors and the decor.Will slowly be filling up the house with tu cute cute things once we are completely settled and all the boxes emptied and the clutter, read rubbish, thrown. Noah’s room has to be one of my faves. It has come out so nice and cute, exactly how i envisioned it to be…I might actually be the one chilling and spending my days there. The rest of the house isn’t exactly fixed yet but we will slowly but surely be getting there.
Sad that Autumn is getting here. I find it to be one of the most depressing seasons of all time. With all the leaves falling and trees losing their beautiful leaves…drizzling almost everyday and throughout the day and not seeing the sun for a long damn time..a little ray of the sun being the only thing closest to the sun to look forward to. Then having a cold and a running nose most of the time…meeh, not sure i’m looking forward to that. All in all, glad we enjoyed the summer, we shall overcome this also and Carpe Diem!
Now, in an earlier post, i had recommeded to form a forum of some sort where we could all be catching up, those also relocated to Germany like myself or those yet to come or just whoever, to discuss how life is here, share ideas and tips on getting by especially in the duller days and also just on other days, gossip and just talk about whatever. I have been looking around wordpress on how to form a forum but unfortunately i have to upgrade my site to business, and pay for it. Well…that would be great but yea…i’m not quite consistent with this plus it’s not quite cheap to do that either. So i would just suggest for us to keep commenting on the posts or random ones with whatever question or moto moto topic one has and we can easily and readily catch up from there, unless one has a suggestion with which to go forward with this..i am ever so willing to incorporate the idea.
otherwise, till next time, enjoy whatever it is you are doing and…tchüß ❤
Also, what are you guys watching or reading? Anything exciting out there you would HIGHLY recommend??
This has been an interesting summer. Interesting because i got to celebrate it with my extended family and friends. Last year wasn’t so much fun because i was preggos and mostly uncomfortable throughout. It was either too hot so not so exciting to move around and try out life threatening adventures like we did this time, or I was just exhausted cos of sleepless or insomnia filled nights. I always ran out of sleep at exactly 4 am and could not go back to bed till morning.Argh that was annoying. I was lucky if i could sleep in the day but that hardly ever happened. Anyways, back to this summer.
We had planned to have our church wedding since early Jan. (As most of you know, i used the family reunion visa to relocate, after having done the civil/AG wedding back in Kenya). So we started sending out invites early enough so those able to come can start saving/plan their off days and vacations to fit in our day…hence family and friends around. We are glad all went well. The planning was exciting. It wasn’t a biiiiig wedding like the normal ones we have back home with about 200 guests. I think at the most we had 30 people( on the extreme higher side). At the church about 20 and a couple more who came to party with us at home. The wedding was lovely. We had lots of fun. The deco was also very great. My schwiegermutter has the eye for deco… so she did an amazeballs job. I could just get a couple ideas from Pininterest and she knew exactly how to incorporate. It worked well.
So with our guests, after the wedding, we had planned a couple of activities for a week , where we could take them around. we were also looking for some stuff that i hadn’t done and then we stumbled upon Phantasialand. MY GOSH, i dunno where to start. It is an adventure park..for adults! Ofcourse it has alot of activities for kids too but most of the stuff i would say is for adults…and only those with steel hearts.
The park is located at a place called Brühl, lucky for us it isn’t so far from Duisburg. We had to get there early in the morning, at 9:00 we were there cos its a tourist destination with people from as far as Belgium and Netherlands, so one has to rise pretty early to beat the long queues. The gates already open but to get to the rollercoasters, one has to wait untill 10:00, when they officially let revellers in after conducting the various test drives. We got there in good time so all was ok. The entrance fee is 47 euros and that entitles you to everything in the park. That’s why it’s also good to go there very early so you can try out as many activities as one possibly can.
We went straight to the new roller coaster at the time(July) called the Taron and I think I have mixed reactions towards it. While waiting to hop in, my pal Mary kept asking me why i wasn’t scared about it and i was all confident asking her what’s there to be scared about. She had gone to the rollercoasters in Dubai and she knew exactly what she was talking about. It was my first, so ofcourse i was like, aaah, it’s no biggie yo.. or so I thought. Wueeeeh. Those speed things are a death sentence. One can easily get a heart attack. 100% not for the faint-hearted. While up there all i wanted was for it to end man. whoever came up with the speed of lightning definition had that in mind. I almost lost my glasses. I’m just lucky they fell on my hands. That thing was fucking fast. Then you kinda feel like you would be thrown off. The rails are way up there in the air, it’s like you are in heaven man. Then they include some crazy ass sound and light effects, the whole program. Twas terrifying i must say. People with height phobias would die when they got there for real. I remember i was completely trembling after disembarking, i had to sit for a couple of minutes to come back to earth.. and i kid you not.
Anyways, besides this ride, there were ofcourse others, there were also some water roller coasters, which were less terrifying. unfortunately after queueing that long for one of the rides and even after getting into, our ride had a technica hitch after like 3 minutes in it, and we had to be ‘rescued’ in the middle of it, lols.Thank God we hadn’t gotten into the wet bit. Although we were already ready to get completely submerged, lols. They have full body dryers, heaters but they aren’t really effective. good thing about the summer, walking around drys the clothes. Next time we know to carry the water-proof covers for bags/fones etc, although there are lockers around the park but then when will you take the pics you know… Vanity will kill us 😉
Then there was this one that i just had no balls to go to. Then thing would flip guys up in a 360 degree turn, then there was fire and water being spit up from below, so you would be suddenly dropped and then just before you hit the ground fire spits off those monster effigies. My gosh what was that, hahahha, not sure about this kinda fun. I found this abit extreme but then again, it’s actually fun…for other people, hahaha. Wish i was i could share videos here, cos i’m not sure i can explain it perfectly. I literally dreamt about the whole experience. Not sure if it was a nightmare or just a normal dream. Hmmm
There was alot less scary activities and fun too. Twas a great experience nonetheless.
On another day we went to Cologne, and saw the Kölner Dome, the gothic Catehdral. Pretty breathtaking.
Our itinerary included the Rhine and also the Lindt chocolate factory at the back but unfortunately it started raining heavily we couldn’t make it to the other side. We had to run across cologne pushing our tods on prams, lols, it was quite funny. It wasn’t really cold but yea..rain. Kids were actually playing and swimming in the small fountains, lols. Think i would’ve jumped in too if i did not have young man with 🙂
Then ofcourse we went to Netherlands. We don’t live so far, about an hours drive or less to Venlo. Shopping is alil cheaper there, of course for some things, not all. Then would’ve enjoyed more if we were weed smokers but yea…
Then the historical Xanten town was also a highlight of the holiday
For a week i think we tried. We defo also had to hang out with family then add in a couple days we had to nurse hangovers, lols. Twas great.
This is to us Mary.May we celebrate many many more holidays to come and ofcourse may we drink to many many more sun-downers. ❤
Ps, some pics above were taken by Mary.
Think it would be an abomination not to attend our football games. Our local team, MSV-Duisburg rose to the second Bundesliga, which is very exciting. People really love their football around this side and that love is extremely contagious. It’s always thrilling in the stadium though, a little addictive too. The choreography, singing and dancing around…EPIC!